I‘ve spent countless years uttering the same phrases: “It’s fine, I’ve got it.” “Don’t worry about it. I’ll do it.” “Yes, I’m sure.”
Living in the day and age of the super woman has not done me any favors. I’m an innate perfectionist influenced by the unrealistic expectations set for women by my own kind, by female overachievers who’ve set out to prove it’s possible to maintain a sparkling household filled with well-mannered children while running high-powered board meetings by day. Sure, it might be possible, but not for someone like me. Not, that is, unless I learn to ask for help.
Too often I am unwilling to accept help, let alone do I request it. I strive to make things easier for those around me, without realizing that in turn, I make life more difficult for myself. Instead of teaching my husband how to put the stroller together, I say, “I’ll do it,” knowing it’s faster to do it myself rather than give him ninety seconds to figure it out for himself.
This year, I am decidedly not going to try to do it all. I am going to ask for help; I will accept help. I will learn the wisdom of delegation, and aim to let go of control. I will let the grocery clerk load bags into my trunk while I strap my toddler into his car seat. I will let my husband do the dishes even though I don’t like way he arranges the plates on the drying rack. I will let my friends set the table while I finish making dinner for girls’ night. I will take up offers by friends to watch my son to have a little time to myself. And I will absolutely agree the next time my husband suggests hiring a maid service to clean our home after we host a big party.
This month, we’re serving up bite-sized advice from experts in different fields to help us all make life a little brighter, more creative and more efficient for 2013. Think of this month as a chance to connect with yourself on a deeper level, get closer to what makes you happy, and take control of the balance in ‘work-life balance’ for yourself this year.